This man used technology to say goodbye

| May 5, 2011 | Reply

We mostly live in a digital world now. We can use a phone anywhere, shoot a photo and upload it for anyone to see in minutes, and share our thoughts and ideas easily with blogs. It seems most people keep a blog or facebook or something to share life with friends. What about sharing death with friends?

Derek Miller of Vancouver had a wife and two daughters (11,13 yrs). He had cancer and it ultimately took his life. During his fight his blog shared normal posts and posts about the cancer that took his life. He had prepared a post to be published upon his death by family or friends. It is reflective, open and sad. As I read through the post and some of his subsequent other posts I realized he had kept it for 10 years. There are parts to his last post that are truly heart wrenching when you come across them.

“However, I didn’t think our time together would be so short: 23 years from our first meeting (at Kanaka Creek Regional Park, I’m pretty sure) until I died? Not enough. Not nearly enough.”

The last few paragraphs are what I think most would like their family to hear when someone dies. We aren’t all able to say goodbye this way but we can all relate to some of his feelings.

“The world, indeed the whole universe, is a beautiful, astonishing, wondrous place. There is always more to find out. I don’t look back and regret anything, and I hope my family can find a way to do the same.

What is true is that I loved them. Lauren and Marina, as you mature and become yourselves over the years, know that I loved you and did my best to be a good father.

Airdrie, you were my best friend and my closest connection. I don’t know what we’d have been like without each other, but I think the world would be a poorer place. I loved you deeply, I loved you, I loved you, I loved you.”

I started reading through the comments people had left. It was filled with friends and people he knew. Then one from his widowed bride.

Ari | May 4, 2011 8:50 AM | Reply

This is the end of Derek Miller.
He did a lot of good.
I will reflect on him.
I will not forget him.

I know it doesn’t have a lot to do with gadgets or gizmos but it is testament to the idea the instant digital world we live in offers more than just a faster cell phone or better camera. It allows all of us to peek into the human element of the faces behind the tech blogs. We can all have a platform that anyone in the world can read at any time. If you get a chance, check out the post and tell us if you think it’s a good or bad thing to have postmortem blog postings such as this.

Source: Derek Miller blog

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